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Submitted by a female from Massachusetts in the USA.

About two years ago I had the worse date of my life. I had signed up on one of those match sites and got a reply from a guy who was interested in me. We had emailed for a week or so and decided to meet for coffee and chat. You never know until you get to talk to a person what they are going to be like and in this case, I don't know if I could possibly have been more bored.

The minute we sat down over our coffee he had nothing but complaints about his ex wife. I tried to get some handle on his interests, hobbies, or what he liked to do in his spare time, but got nothing.

Several times he looked at me and said, "I thought you were going to be funny. You're not funny." I told him it depended on the circumstances and made a joke about that I was not about to jump up on the table and do the hula. I asked him what he would like to do for a date. Everything was an "I don't know." I spent about a half hour or so together and I left just figuring, "Well, one never knows and now I do."

Over a year later he called me. He had found my number in his desk. I had totally forgotten this guys name and was surprised when he called. He talked about how bad his life had been the last year and wanted to know if we could meet again. I sure wasn't in the mood to hear doom and gloom stories again so told him I seeing someone quite steadily. This was the easiest way to say no and not hurt his feelings.

I never want to be with someone who is a total drag. First dates are suppose to be kind of fun. This one was awful.

I am a guy, living in Oregon, U.S.A.

I think that for a first date, just going to the park or some other scenic area, maybe a zoo or aquarium would be nice. Depending on which of these and what you do, it might very well be free. You've got all day to get to know each other. It's public, there's entertainment and things to do, and it's more personal, one on one than some date ideas.

Submitted by a female from Connecticut.

My worse first date was with a man who owned a car dealership. He asked me out to a car auction which sounded like fun. We arrived at the car auction and it was kind of fun for a while, but after a free hours it was boring. The cars are all running at the car auction so the exhaust fumes were sickening and dinner ended being Macaroni and cheese plus a hot dog from the auction concession stand.

After he had purchased all the cars he asked if I would mind driving one back to his lot about an hour away. He said he would be ahead of me and if I had any problems with the car to flash my lights and he would pull over (it was about 11:30 p.m). Then he asked if his dog a Rottweler could ride in the car with me because the seats were more comfortable for the dog. So I said okay. On the way home the "engine" light when on and I flashed my lights but he must not have seen them so when I pulled over he did not. So I was alone on the side of a highway with a dog that was huge and not seeming to friendly. Then a car pulls up next to me and a man gets out and comes up to my car and starts tapping on the window.

I was scared, but it turns out he got a flat and wanted to know if I had a cell phone. Then a policeman pulls up to make sure we were okay and he asked me the name of the dealership which I did not know and the last name of the person I was on the date with which he did not know. I ended up on the side of the road for a few hours because my date did not realize I was not behind him till he got to car lot. Then he finally came and got me and I went home very tired and aggravated.

Submitted by a female age 44 from So. Cal Camarillo, CA.

A good first date in a tight economy would definitely be a picnic at the beach. The dates could pack a picnic Lunch with breads and cheeses and wine and water. a blanket and maybe a cd player for music. A single rose which may run you maybe five dollars or less. This is something simple as well as inexpensive which shows the person that they are not attempting to be flashy, but just giving the attention that they deserve.

The final activity would be a nice stroll hand in hand on the beach under the sun setting, moon rising night. Then a drive home and a Kiss until the next date.